The Dating Game
The good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to looking for that someone special—plus candid comments by two anonymous singles.
For people who don’t like TMI
When all you want is the basics about a person. Set preferences like age range and distance, and pictures pop up. Swipe left if you don’t like; swipe right if you do. If the other person also swipes right and there is a “match,” both parties get a chance to read more about each other in profiles, and either party can reach out.
He says: Athough you may have heard otherwise, Tinder is not just for casual hookups. That said, beware of sexy body shots and dubious messages like, “I live near LAX.”
She says: I run when someone’s initial text is “Wazzup?” It means I didn’t even bother to read your profile; I don’t really care what you are like.
For women who want the upper hand
Both parties can “like” each other, but only women can reach out.
In the case of a match, the female has 24 hours to contact the guy. If she does not, he disappears. With that element, being on Bumble can feel like playing a game.
He says: The girls on Bumble seem hotter. There sure are better photos on there—many seem like professionals took them.
She says: I like the fact that I have more control. Beware of gimmicks though, like having to pay a fee to get the guy back after he disappears.
For singles who want particulars
This fee-based dating service requires users to divulge more information, filling out forms and personal statements. Singles can express themselves through various writing sections; profiles can include up to 26 photos; and users can set numerous preferences. Communication between members happens through an “anonymous” email network. Names and contact information are kept confidential until the member personally decides to share.
He says: I like the fact that you can go deep with preferences. I am a single father. I want to make sure women are okay with that.
She says: While Tinder and Bumble have a minimalistic, frank tone, lying on Match is common. And that’s kind of creepy considering the amount of time you spend sharing about yourself (through all the essays, etc.) when you sign up.
For kick-back types
With the slogan “City Folks Just Don’t Get It” this fee-based site is not just for people who work in agriculture or live in rural areas. It is aimed at singles who are animal lovers, outdoor enthusiasts and appreciate the laid-back country lifestyle—regardless of where they actually live.
He says: Lots of Trump supporters and people who have a small-town mentality are on this.
She says: I’m not a country girl by any stretch, but it seems like there are guys on it like me—they really want to meet someone to share their lives with.
It’s not as if Leslie Danelian didn’t already have a following when she opened Sweet Butter Kitchen, Café & Market earlier this year. The self-described foodie had run her own local catering operation for years. Still, she and husband Rick Berge were shocked when, days before the restaurant’s debut date, the phone started ringing off the hook.